Do you ever look around your cluttered home, and decide it's time to get rid off some things and get organized? and then feel instantly better afterwards? more at peace? Well you have to do that with the people around you sometimes, as sad as it may sound, as hard as it may be to walk away from people sometimes you have to unclutter your life. Here are a few types of people it is OKAY to let go off. I am not writing this to motivate you cut someone out, but rather to remind you that you don't have to feel guilty for wanting to cut someone out, especially if they fall in on of these categories.
1. People Who Are Causing Constant Stress: The first group is of course the people who have become toxic to you, who are always causing you more stress and drama. Constant arguments and fights, no matter how many times you try to make it work with them it never really does.
2. Selfish People: Friends or family that seem to think the world revolves around them, takes everything personally, only come to you when they want something, are never there for you, but still pat themselves on the back for the one time they were years ago. Let's be frank, these people aren't really serving any purpose in your life, they show no support, they never really ask about you, they might not even pay attention to you when you speak. This one way relationship serves no purpose anymore.
3. Not To Be Trusted People: These are individuals who have lost your trust and confidence in them over the time that you have known them. If you don't trust someone, if you don't feel safe around a person there is no point in keeping them in your life.
4. Know-It-All: Friends and family who don't like being wrong, always want to be right, they are not open to looking at things from different perspectives, they don't respect anyone else's beliefs and views and have to always win the conversation. There isn't much to learn from a person like this, chances are you will never feel heard by them either. There is a difference between knowledge and assumption.
5.Negative Rays Of Nothing: Let's say you are super excited about a new project you are working on, you go up to your friend and tell them how happy and excited you are and their first instinct is to pick apart on you plans by pointing out everything that is wrong with it and how it's not worth it, now all of a sudden you are stressed out and feeling down about something you were beyond happy for minutes ago. Glass half empty, negative people are always pointing out the bad things, they never seem to like anything about the world, the people or even themselves! They assume the worst all the time and never have anything positive to bring to the table.
6. The Judges: People who are constantly judging everyone and everything around them. Now there is a different between a good judgment and a bad one, and we all have the right to observe and analyse the world around us to decide what's good and what's bad in our opinion. However judgmental people who are always too hasty to pass a verdict, without looking at things from different point of views, having an open mind or even knowing the whole story behind the very person/object/situation that they are judging have a problem. Why? people who aren't happy with themselves, like to judge other's and pointing out their flaws not to contribute to someone else's growth but with the sole agenda of feeling good about themselves.
These are just a few examples of people it is okay for you to cut off, the point is for you to surround yourself with good, positive and supportive people, for you to be able to be yourself, be loved and feel safe. If someone is constantly causing you stress, pain, bringing more drama to your life than necessary and doesn't serve a purpose in your life, it is okay for you to be done with them and go your own way.
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