When I first found myself single, I went through a few stages of loneliness before I actually got comfortable with my own company. There were so many days where I felt lonely, days where I wished there was someone who wanted to take me out on cute dates and buy me flowers, but then it hit me, I didn't have a significant other and I didn't really need one either just to go out for dinner. I had this belief system that I can only go to fancy restaurant, a picnic or to the movies with other people, but I also knew that I wasn't ready to date yet and the right thing would be to just avoid the drama and learn to enjoy my own company. Now don't get me wrong, I've actually been on solo dates while I was in committed relationships too, sometimes you just need time on your own and let's be honest your friends are not always going to be available to hangout. Long story short I decided to start taking myself out on dates especially on the days when I felt lonely.
1. Dinner And A Movie: Oh the classic first date, something I had only ever done with other people. When I first went to a restaurant alone, I felt weird, but I realized that eating alone wasn't actually that bad, I got the chance to enjoy a nice meal, not worry about having broccoli stuck in my teeth and especially not having to keep a conversation going while I eat. When I got to the movies at first my eyes went straight to the people in groups laughing with friends and holding hands with their other halves but once the movie started I realized that you can't even talk during a movie so what's the point of even going to them on a date? duh! it actually became a regular thing for me, every time there's a new release I want to watch I don't need to wait on my friends or for a date, I just go and honestly it's pretty liberating.
2. The Active Date Night: Join a group workout class or a dance class then go get a smoothie after. So simple and so much fun. You don't really need another person for this and considering that you will be in a group, you won't even feel alone. You can go on a hike, a walk in a park, listen to some music get some ice cream on your way back.
3. Road Trip: Take a drive down to a place where you haven't been before, explore museums and new towns. Go camping, just spend some time with yourself doing things you enjoy and prefer.
4. Coffee Date: Probably the most simple yet the most comfortable one to do on your own, actually one of the first things I did when I started going on solo dates. All you need is a good book or playlist or even a journal to write things down about what's going on around you and inside you.
These are just a few ideas, but the point of a solo date is to enjoy and appreciate your own company, doing things maybe your friends don't really enjoy doing, not having to wait on other people to have a fun night and being comfortably grounded.
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