So if you're reading this you're probably down in the dumps, don't feel like doing anything, simply sitting there on your couch or in your bed binge-watching Netflix and procrastinating all the things that you should really be doing but you just can't summon the will power to do. Sometimes it all feels like too much work and we let the sadness take over us, only to lose sight of what's important. It's normal to fall off the wagon and sometimes getting back on it can be a little harder than normal especially if you struggle with depression and anxiety or haven't really been in touch with yourself for a while. You can sit there watching YouTube videos all day on how to do this and that but unless you actually get up and do those things physically, you won't be achieving any goals that you want to. Now your goal could be as little as wanting to do the dishes and clean the place to as big as becoming happy and fulfilled in life. All of us go through different things, different issues, different ups, and downs and there are different issues that get on our nerves and keep us down. Here are a few things I do when I need to get out my head and get things done.
Step 1:
Ask yourself why I need to get out of the dumps and how you started feeling this way in the first place and if you require therapy or counseling definitely do that for yourself because it can be one of the best things you do for yourself. I know it's really hard to drag yourself to the first session but as soon as you walk out of that first step you are going to want to go again. You will get to know yourself! YOU WILL FIND OUT WHY YOU FEEL DOWN. Understanding the cause of your troubles is so crucial if you want to get better. It's confusing right now only because you're not doing anything about it and so much has happened that you can't even remember what caused this mess. You are not giving yourself what you need to be giving yourself which is A FIGHTING CHANCE, be your own savior ask yourself "hold on! why am I feeling this way? I feel whatever I feel and that's okay but what's in my best interest? what should I really be doing that will help me get out of this constant nightmare, how do I break out of it?" give yourself that chance and ask yourself questions so you can get to the bottom of it and understand what you are dealing with and what you need to do now. Once you've done that then write down that information and post it somewhere where you can look at it all the time. I have a big vision board in my room where I always put all my goals and affirmations. I always look at it as soon as I wake up there's no way I can't look at it and every time I walk into my room it is the first thing I see. Every time I look at it subconsciously those goals, those affirmations are going into my head and I am feeling better about myself and staying more aligned with those goals without having to constantly give myself a pep talk. Remember when you didn't have these issues? or a time in life where you actually felt happy with yourself? or all the things you have always wanted to do but have always felt too intimidated to take the actions towards? Put your focus and energy back into those intentions.
Step 2
This is a very simple one clean your space, by space I mean your room, could be your office or could be your studio wherever you spend most of your time. It's important because you need a safe, clean and positive environment for yourself and you need to create that happy place for yourself. Somewhere you can feel at home. Feeling welcomed into your own space is very important, pick a spot in your room or in your house where you can go for thinking when you or other people get into your head. Build yourself a comfort zone your bedroom should say hi come and sleep, your bathroom should say this is where you cleanse, you need to set the right feng shui. To get into the right headspace.
Step 3
Clean out your social life, a more obvious one because you need to create distance from negative influences and get closer to the positive influences in your life. I don't exactly remember where I heard this but during my research, for this very topic, I came across a saying that really stuck with me "you become the group average of the people who you hang out with" so basically you need to surround yourself with good people and good influences. I'm not saying that your group is in any way going to define who you are but creating an abundant social circle is very important because when you're down your dumps you need someone you can talk to and someone who doesn't talk down to you or just sits there and pretend to listen, someone who actually gives you good and honest advice, people who can relate to your issues, people who you see thriving in the world, people who you look up to, people who inspire and motivate you over the people who make you feel useless or make you want to do things that aren't very good for you for example drinking or doing drugs or you know just simply anything to make you feel good for five minutes but bad for the rest of the month again. Check-in on your friends who could be hurting or might be in the dumps like you. Making sure that you are being good to the people who need you is very important not only will it help you feel better but it will also help you build stronger more positive bonds with the right people. Now if you don't have any friends out of social media I suggest the pages and people you follow should also be what inspires you to be your best self. You can also try volunteering to help the community. Anything that helps you put a positive giving energy out into your social environment will bring you abundance and prosperity.
Step 4
Clean yourself up! I'm not saying go and give yourself a big makeover and spend hundreds of dollars, I mean, by all means, go do that if you can but do something you can do every day, for example for me it was developing a skincare routine, my skin is clear, I feel better about it and it actually gives me something to do on a regular basis, not saying that try and look good for other people but just look good to feel confident about yourself and under your skin. Just keep yourself clean so you can stay away from all that feeling like s***. If you are still wearing the makeup you were wearing 12 hours ago or haven't showered or shaved in the past two days you are going to end up feeling like s*** but taking care of yourself physically is also important so do something to make yourself feel good on the outside.
Step five
Now as we've already covered the first 4 steps it gets a little harder, step 5 is (and I'm sure someone guessed that this would be here) physical activity. Why physical activity? simply because physical activity isn't just for weight management or looing good, it also helps us battle stress and the feeling of feeling unfulfilled and unproductive. When you go to the gym or for a walk or do anything that keeps you physically active you will feel better about yourself. From going all out with a proper routine at the gym to just getting your steps in you are creating a routine for yourself which can be very good because physical activity releases good chemicals such as serotonin and endorphins in our body which helps us feel happier and less stressed. Now if you're a super, super lazy person who doesn't want to do any type of physical activity then I suggest just meditating, literally just lay down in your bed when you wake up in the morning and take 5 minutes just to breathe or before bed whenever you have time, remember to breathe. Breathing is how you know you're still alive!!!
Step 6 Don't depend on others. The very last step is basically just a reminder to stay consistent with your goals and yourself, you deserve the best treatment there is and you have to give it to yourself you cannot make another thing or another person the source of your comfort, happiness, and fulfillment that we all so badly desire in this life. You have to be your own source of light because you are a stardust soul, you are magic and you matter!! so have faith in yourself! do things for yourself, make plans for yourself and always check-in to make sure you're not burning yourself out physically, emotionally or mentally. Always take a break when needed but also give yourself that fighting chance of rising from the ashes. Reward yourself when you rise.
So these are my six steps for feeling better about yourself leveling up in life and not feeling like s*** all the time. Keep in mind these are my personal tips because these are the things that helped me to finally understand what I wanted and how to get started after being lost for so long in my own thoughts and misery. You already have the strength inside you, I know you do! you know you do too but it's not easy for us to summon it because of the negative patterns, traumas, and insecurities that the society feeds us from the very day we are born. I won't get too deep into it not today but breaking out of these negative patterns and social standards is so hard when following them is so common that we don't even realize we're following them subconsciously. It is one of the hardest things I've ever had to do and it has taken me a long time of self-actualization and hard work to get to this point. Remember your future isn't promised, your past is already gone, all you have is right now! your present moment! so make it count. Don't let that bag of chips seduce you with its puffy package and salty taste, don't let that loser who broke your heart control your emotions, don't let your past mistakes and unfortunate events haunt you any longer and above all! don't let your negative thoughts become your reality!
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