Let me just start by saying that last year this time I was severely depressed and stuck in a cycle of one bad thing after another. I felt that if I couldn't heal after going through all the therapy and literally changing my surroundings completely that just simply means I am doomed to be this sad little person (victim mentality) who has nothing to look forward to but the day they die. This year after looking at a old memory, I realized how much I DON'T RESONATE with that girl anymore.
To be frank, the past few weeks haven't really been easy on me either, I have gone from wanting to provide support to my closest friends to isolating myself entirely because I think I might hurt their feelings the minute I speak to them ( feeling angry and betrayed ) but what I didn't do this time is try to hurt myself or emotionally numb myself. At first I decided to dwell upon it, cry, write it out to vent and just wait it all out but that's not who I am, I want my day to be productive and well lived. I decided to accept how I am feeling and use this opportunity to figure out different ways to shift my energy and emotions and these are the one's that worked.
Lessons: I started to write about what I had learned from this situation instead of focusing so much on what has happened and how it has left me feeling. After writing down my lesson I also realized that this situation was something I keep running into again and again simply because I never take my lesson from it. The universe keeps putting me in the same situation because how can I avoid a situation if I don't even see it as a problem and you don't really get to gain the wisdom without taking the lesson right? this helped putting things into perspective. Next time you find yourself feeling down because of the events that have transpired, ask yourself what you needed to learn from this.
Meditate: When it feels like you're not in control the best thing to do is to just sit and breathe. Remind yourself that you are alive, find a yoga class on youtube or just sit and concentrate on your breathing. This will not only ground you into the present moment but also calm your nerves ( so you don't do anything out of aggression). I always mention how the past is gone and the future isn't promised and thinking about those two you aren't exactly making the most of what you do have PRESENT MOMENT. If you breathe right now and calm your mind 5 minutes later you will feel better than you did a minute ago.
Channel Energy Elsewhere: The more you focus on an emotion the more you amplify it. If you're just constantly thinking about how bad and angry you feel you will only get angrier and feel worse. Shift your focus on something else, something that isn't bringing you negativity. Let's say you're focused on how a friend turned out to be fake and not have your best interest then go speak to a friend who does have your best interest (now don't be talking about the other person) check what they have been upto. If you're financial situation is what's stressing you out but your health is doing very well then focus on your healthy life for a bit until the financial situation stabilizes itself (when you're not constantly stressing over it, it will cause that's just how the universe works). Now if you absolutely have to deal with it then go ahead do what you can do but this blog is for when you don't really have any control over the situation so that's another topic.
Gratitude: Another thing that will help you move into a more calm and positive energy is gratitude. Think about all that you do have instead of what you don't. Be thankful for the little things, a roof over your head, parents who are healthy and happy, that gadget that you really wanted to buy and you did, the clean water that a lot of people in the world don't have access to, the car that you drive even if it's not the car of your dreams atleast you aren't walking places and the fact that you are still alive. You will be so filled with gratitude that the negative emotions will automatically be less emphasized.
These are a few practices that help me shift my focus and energy when I am in a negative headspace, the point is to not emphasize bad energies cause the more you do that the worse you will feel, I hope this helps.
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