6 Types Of Fake Friends

Let's start off with checking ourselves, if you want real friends you have to be a real friend too, all relationships are a 50/50. What is a real friend? to me it is someone who is supportive of me ,is trustworthy, honest and understanding. Anyone who doesn't fall into that category is just an acquaintance and not an actual friend. So here are a few signs that your friend might be fake.

1. Unsupportive: You know that friend that never seems to be listening when you talk? when you need them to give you advice or tell you it will all be okay but they can't do any of those things because they weren't even paying attention to what you said? they reply with an "oh" or "idk" as soon as you finish talking? I personally have had friends who when I talk about a new project or problem with them will hype me up and even offer ideas and advice on the matter, making me feel motivated and supported and also "friends" who seem to just completely zone out and act like they don't really care about me, leaving me feeling like a bother. Unsupportive friends are the worst to keep around because they make you feel unwanted and that is literally the opposite of what a friendship should feel like. It's understandable that everyone is busy and has a life but a supportive friend will always genuinely have your back, even when you don't talk all the time.

2. Social Media Friend: my favorite one, you know that friend who always posts a lot about you? but in real life don't know the first thing about you? If your friendship is simply defined by how often you tag each other in posts and how long your snap streak is you have yourself a social media friend this person only knows you on a superficial level and to take selfies so they can show the world they have a friend. They do have a friend but are they a real friend?

3. Party Friend: The friend who only comes to you when they want to go out partying or need a drinking buddy. Not saying it's wrong to party but a person who is only available when they want to go out isn't actually your friend and is in fact using you like background noise, to be a wingman and to not look alone. As soon as this person meets someone at the bar they ditch you. This type of fake friend is a horrible influence and should be put in the acquaintance box immediately. If you want someone to only go party with great but do not think this is someone who will stick around in the long run.

4. Gossip Friend: The drama queen, the friend who is always discussing other people's lives. First of all, you better believe if someone is always talking about their other "friends" to you they talk about you too. This is a person who is trying so hard not to take a good look at themselves that they must judge and trash talk everyone else around them.They always have some sort of drama and are always sticking their noses into other people's businesses. If someone enjoys talking about other people so much they aren't a good influence.

5. User: The one I have the most experience with sadly, people you became friends with on a completely normal basis but as the time passed by they turned into people who are only there when they need something from you and are always asking for your help on this and that, they also tend to disappear out of your life when they don't need anything and reappear right before they want something. I had a friend who disappeared for a little while and one day out of the blue asks me if I could hang out as soon as I said yes they asked me if I could buy them something, I realized what was happening and said no and then they replied saying they were busy and couldn't hang out anymore. Please! Don't!Get!Used! it's good to help friends when they are in need but if they start taking advantage of the fact that you are always willing to help throw them in that box of people who no longer serve a purpose in your life.

6.Backstabber: this one takes the cake, this is the friend that gets really close to you but only because they are secretly jealous of you, they always motivate you to do bad things for their own amusement, they are the ones that sleep with your ex as soon as you guys break up, they are the ones who will always try to pull you back when you seem to be doing well and the ones who have elements of all 5 qualities listed above. Being their friend seems more like a competition than it does friendship. They seem to enjoy your misery. These are the ones who will cut you deep. If there is a friend in your life you currently get that vibe from you should cut them out right away. They are the Regina George of your life doesn't matter male or female. They are probably the reason why you are reading this and they will backstab you the first chance they get. They probably have some deep rooted self esteem and self worth issues and feel the constant need to make their friends feel just as bad as they do, so they can feel better about themselves.

Conclusion: Your friends should be people you can be your original self around, people who care about you genuinely want to be there for you, they want to see you prosper and will support your goals and dreams. They are the people worth having around during both good and bad times. Your friends should be a source of abundance and support, not pain.